Some people are not afraid to try new things...to "go for it" both in their work and personal lives. They are the ones everyone else typically watches in wonder as they make bold moves, take risks...and shockingly...make a difference.
I'm Too Busy To Try New Things
How many times have you heard the word "busy" in the last week? Heck, how many times have I said it? Answer --> too many! Effective immediately, let's drop that word from our vocabulary. "Busy" becomes our crutch...and that instills a negative mindset for us all.
Too often we allow ourselves, our colleagues, and our corporate cultures to become complacent. We accept work, and effort, and ideas that used to be pretty good. But in reality they simply are no longer effective or current.
A creeping culture death moves into our world. We may not even realize that it is happening until we see someone else making a difference. Then we wonder....why am I still stuck in this place?
Stop living in the past...it's time for something more.
Life is about being great. Are you with me?
I'm Scared To Look Dumb If I Try New Things
I'm going to let you in on a little secret. No one looks dumb trying new things. No one looks foolish putting forth effort. The truth is that those that are too scared to try are secretly jealous of those that step up and go for it.
You can go for it too.
Challenge yourself, and those around you to fight the creeping death. Consider the team of people around you each day. All of that experience, energy, and commitment is not being fully realized. You have an opportunity to inspire them to elevate their game.
How About You
It's time to find your voice. Speak out, and do not allow the creeping death to find a home in your organization. You are the one that will make the difference. That's why you're there.
I'd love to hear from you.
No Excuses.
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Giving peers feedback can be difficult. Add to that an upset peer, and you're in for a wild ride. This is a particularly difficult issue since there is no authority differential. When we discuss difficult issues with our staff no one is surprised (or at least they shouldn't be!). When we review these with our boss it is certainly sensitive, but again, the authority differential is clear. However, when we're speaking with someone who shares the same level of authority as we do, the process can be particularly....well...treacherous. And if they're all ready angry....oh boy.
START WITH TWO GOALS
Let me say right away that I have never enjoyed addressing conflict with my peers. Who do I think I am anyway? Am I so smart, that I know what it is right, and they are clearly off-base? Since when did I become all-knowing? The truth is I'm not, and neither are you. But once in a while something happens that requires us to have a heart-to-heart with our colleagues.
Over the years I've handled these situations well. And, over the years I have completely messed up these moments so badly that I wanted to die. Literally. What has evolved however, is a two-step goal system that dramatically changes the dynamics of "the moment."
The ability to successfully execute this strategy, particularly if the other person is upset with you, hinges on stating two goals at the very beginning of the meeting.
Goal 1: Explain that you are committed to having a good working relationship with the other person once you complete the meeting.
Goal 2: Explain you will answer every question they have about the issue on the table.
THE TONE IS SET
With your goals out in the open, you have effectively disarmed your colleague (in a good way) so that the two of you can work through the task at hand as professionals.
It doesn't mean that by the end of the session you'll be adding each other to your holiday gift card list. But, it does mean that you were the one that took action. You took the risk. You were the leader.
HOW ABOUT YOU
When have you had a conflict with a peer? What approach did you take: denial, avoidance, or at least a long slow burn that erupted in the wrong setting? Do you have a strategy that works well?
I'd love to hear from you.
No Excuses.
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