When was the last time you received meaningful, constructive feedback? Are you in a leadership role so you've grown accustomed to giving instead of receiving? Me too. I get paid to provide feedback on all sorts of things from projects to performance.
It's good for us to get feedback too..
I'm a firm believer that it is impossible to be an effective leader if you are lacking in self-confidence. Eventually those insecurities will surface and your credibility is sure to fade. Think of the leaders you know who have the confidence necessary to take risks, try new approaches, and aren't afraid to admit when something didn't work. They usually inspire others, don't they? They usually attract high performers, right? Confidence has to be a good thing!
Unless self-confidence morphs into a trip to the all-you-can-eat-I'm-An-Awesome-Leader-buffet.
Too Much of a Good Thing
I'm told there is a "line" that shouldn't be crossed when it comes to balancing confidence and arrogance. I'm not sure I've ever seen this line, which means I should probably take a look over my shoulder to see if it is already behind me.
Effective feedback is the antidote to the confidence binge that many leaders succumb to over time. Done well, constructive feedback not only demonstrates support, but it allows for a greater awareness about complicated issues and gets everything back in to the proper context.
How About You
Is your head buried deep in the leadership trough? If so, it may be time for you to pick your head up, take a look around, and create an environment where others know you are open to feedback.
The worst thing that can happen is your ego is bruised for five minutes, and then that regular confidence will kick back in figuring out a way for you to be even more effective. Plus, it's no fun when we get so full of ourselves that we end up too big for our britches.
I'd love to hear from you.