Can we discuss something privately? I'd rather not have this get out, but I have an issue that keeps getting in my way. You see, as a hands-on HR practitioner, I've had the opportunity to work with many types of people at all levels of the organizations I've served. I can honestly say that I've enjoyed interacting with almost all of them. Almost all.
AM I SUPPOSED TO LIKE EVERYBODY?
I know the collective stereotype outside of Human Resources is that we are masters of the company picnic and group hugs, but are we really expected to be everyone's pal? Aren't we the ones who deal with some of the most complicated and challenging issues in the workplace? Don't we have to dive head first in to these problems when other leaders look like deer in the headlights - sexual harassment, racial discrimination, diversity and inclusion, and other performance failures?
But what happens when we (read here -> me) don't like the ones we are supposed to serve?
SERVING IS DIFFERENT THAN LIKING
No. We don't have to like every single person we ever work with. However, we must absolutely serve every single one as if we did like them. A brief example brought this point home to me years ago and helps me (try!) to stay grounded.
An employee had been utilizing the resources of my team to work through a challenge with her supervisor. To complicate matters, her performance had deteriorated in the weeks leading up to her accessing HR. The situation eventually required me to meet with the employee, then her manager, and then the employee...again. Candidly, this case was starting to get annoying.
As I prepared for the second round with the employee, I knew I would have to "be firm" and "hold her accountable" for her weak performance. Then the meeting started, I followed my plan, and then something happened.
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