Have you ever taken a step back from your current role
and compared it to what you thought you would be doing at this point? What were
you expecting? Was it a certain title...or salary...or span of control? How
close are you to achieving that vision?
For many...that vision is a cruel reminder of what their
career is not. That can really hurt.
Wallow
When those feelings get churned up we often try to
suppress them as quickly as possible. After all, we're professionals! Being
under control is a hallmark of our leadership skill set. Except the suppression strategy
is not real. Feeling disappointment...frustration...and even some
bitterness is normal. Don't bury those feelings, and please don't disregard them in
some sort of artificial cleansing exercise.
Wallow in the pain. Let it consume you. Allow your honest
feelings to flow hard through your mind and body. Experience those raw
emotions...and feel the pain.
And only then...begin to release them.
Allowing yourself to feel alive...even when it is painful...actually
turns out to be quite empowering. As counter intuitive as that may sound, life
has a way of using our frustrations and disappointment as fuel to bring the future
into greater focus.
Get Moving
Once your self-inflicted pain session is complete it is
time for action. Get yourself organized. Start a list of what you want...now.
Don't sell yourself short as you document what it is you really want. Put it
all down on paper (or Wunderlist if you've committed to a digital life like
me.)
This list...regardless of how long...is your new
beginning. You don't have to achieve anything on your list today...but you
absolutely need to acknowledge that it exists.
Your new plan has just been
born. Give yourself credit for starting. Nothing keeps disappointment and
bitterness going strong more than inaction.
So take action!
How About You
Titles..money...power...all may have a role to play in
your plan. However, being someone other than you makes no sense, so stop the
comparisons and focus on your list. Organize it...take small steps...and start
being the real you. After all, it's a lot more satisfying to say "I
Wanna Be Me!" Don't you think?
I'd love to hear from you.
No Excuses.
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