There are very few issues that I can't process a bit
before responding. I may have a strong reaction on the inside, but I try not to
let it show on the outside...at least not right away. That wouldn't be fair to
the others involved, and it certainly wouldn't be fair to those who expect me
to lead in a measured and thoughtful way.
Except for one thing.
In that case there's no processing, no calculated
responses, no nervous laughter as I try to figure out my next move. When I
hear, or see, or experience these moments the gloves are off and I'm all in.
See It
I see it...I hear it...the jokes...the good 'ol boy
comments...the underlying messages about race, LGBT persons, and the role of
women; which is quickly followed with some sort of twisted justification as to
why they should be treated differently (read here --> like second-class
citizens.)
Sadly even some companies, political "leaders", and countries take pride in their public attacks on
other human beings who happen to be different from the
"majority."
I'm here to tell you that kind of hatred doesn't work for
me. Whether it's hiding behind "faith" or using subtle innuendos
that degrade others. It's still hate. It's not being rude, or crass, or flip.
It's hate.
Feel It
What happens to you when you are confronted with these embarrassingly misinformed and juvenile behaviors? Does your heart rate pick up
speed? Do you feel the pressure in the room change to something almost
oppressive because everyone knows it's wrong?
Do you know in that specific moment it's time to strike
back and lead? Or, for you is it time to welcome the familiar nervous laughter
back for another appearance and hope the topic of conversation changes quickly?
My reaction is all too familiar now. I must confront the
bigot. Nervous laughter is no longer an option. Hoping for someone else to step
in is no longer an option.
I am the option.
How About You
Consider the choices you make in your life. Who is part
of your inner circle? What leaders do you follow? What companies do you
support? Do their behaviors align with your values? When you are confronted
with these behaviors again, consider the most effective option that is
available --> you.
You are the option too.
I'd love to hear from you.
No Excuses.
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